Q: We would like to use a monogram on our wedding invitations but whose initials should be used?

A: Good question! I checked with several “etiquette” persons at the invitation printers and have gotten different answers. Most say that you should not use the groom’s last name initial since the couple is not yet married, although I have seen this done many times. I have seen couples use both their first name initials and the initials of the parents issuing the invitation are sometimes used. I personally like the idea of using the first name initials of the bride and groom.

Q: My cousin got married this past Sunday, Labor Day weekend. My mom thinks this was in poor taste and inconsiderate. Your thoughts, please.

A: I don’t know that it matters but many weddings are held on Sundays, especially when the next day (Monday) is a holiday. Many families have reunions and other family gatherings during these holidays and the wedding can be scheduled around those events. Some family members could save money by buying only one airline ticket for both events.